I hope you haven’t forgotton, our first International Princess Day (May 5th) is just under three weeks away! Do you know what you’re going to do yet? Are you going to take the day off, or maybe participate on Sunday instead? Are you going to use it as an excuse to have some indulgent ‘me time’ or celebrate with your friends? Here are a few suggestions that might inspire you.

Start your day off in the most beautiful way possible (without sleeping it away!) leave your curtains open so that you might be awakened by the first rays of morning light as they fall upon your face. Have breakfast in bed, some fresh fruit perhaps and your favourite tea. Listen to the sounds of the birds outside, read a few pages of a favourite book, or a poem like this one.

Choose your outfits for the day. They don’t have to be your most formal, or impressive, but something simple and sweet and fun. Allow yourself to wear some jewelry, a little perfume and, if suitable, maybe a crown or tiara, to remind yourself that today you are royalty.

Put on some music if you are spending part of the day at home, perhaps some Medieval dance music, lilting classical or baroque or just make a play list of all you favourite ‘pick me up’ songs, nothing angsty or sad. Feel free to sing along and dance as much as you like.

If you choose to go out, pick a destination a little different to where you would normally go. You might like to visit an interesting store that’s recently opened, see a new movie, have a manicure, go window shopping, have high tea at a cafe or tearoom, go antiquing, visit a museum, art gallery or library. Allow yourself plenty of time to enjoy each experience and don’t fret over anything, this is your chance to indulge a little.

For more nature loving Princesses, if the weather is nice you may like to take a walk somewhere. In the park or forest or perhaps beside the sea. Notice what flowers are blooming and keep an eye out for furry and feathered friends. If you feel the whim, just stretch out on the grass and watch the clouds go by.

End the day on a high note. Go out for dinner to a fancy restaurant or cook your favourite meal, followed by some wickedly rich dessert. You might like to have a warm scented bath before bed, or spend an hour brushing your hair. Flip through some magazines, read a fairytale and take the time to write all about your day in you diary.

Personally, I’m going to invite some friends over the night before for a little party and then take the whole day off, though my plans for that are secret! These are just suggestions, and its important to spend your Princess Day doing things you love and find enjoyable and uplifting. I look forward to hearing all about your adventures!

Unfortunately, even Princesses get sick, and I’ve been unlucky enough to get hit by two bugs so far this season. The first one only lasted three days however, and I’m hoping to fight this one off pretty quickly as well! I think when we come down with a seasonal illness, there’s two important things - to boost your immune system and support your body in fighting it, and to maintain some dignity and peace of mind by being comfortable while in convalescence.

I’m a firm believer in natural remedies for fighting off colds and flu, the reason being that these illnesses are rarely serious unless you’ve got a particularly weak disposition, so its actually good to keep your immune system in fighting shape by dealing with these so you’ll be better protected when it comes to more serious viruses.

I take Vitamin C, with zinc which helps your body absorb it. Powdered form is best, but sometimes its easier to take more in tablets. Its actually pretty hard to take too much vitamin C, what your body doesn’t need it will just pass on. I also take Echinacea, the important thing with Echinacea is to get it in liquid form distilled from the root, a lot of the echinacea available is made using the flower and leaves which aren’t as strong. The brand I buy is called ‘Herbs of Gold’ its quite expensive but worth its weight in gold! I take it at the first sign of a cold, 5 mls morning and night. If I don’t take echinacea, my colds tend to last twice as long. The other fantastic cold remedy is raw garlic. I know, its nasty stuff and noone will want to come near you for days, but if you can stomach a clove or two of raw garlic a day (I crush mine and put it in soup after the soup is cooked) it will help you recover much faster!

Get as much rest as you can. Your body needs time to heal itself and the less energy you use up elsewhere the more it can devote to fighting that bug! Go to bed early, sleep in and spend the day relaxing with a good book or movie. Whenever you feel the need for a nap, take one.

Make sure you keep up your fluid intake, whether its tea or juice or watery soup. Keep yourself hydrated and eat lots of nourishing and comforting foods. My favourite things to eat when I’m sick are Udon soup, Creamed Rice and Bananas on toast. Chicken noodle soup is very popular too. If you can manage vegetables and fruit, eat a much as you can and avoid dairy foods as the lactose can increase mucous production.

Make yourself comfortable, being sick is a great excuse to be a little self indulgent and sentimental. Make yourself a comfy little nest with pillows, blankets and your favourite teddy bear. Watch your favourite movies (I don’t know about you but noontime television usually makes me feel worse) and read fairy tales and picture books. Take warm baths with salts and spend the whole day in your pajamas or nightgown. Make sure you have some pretty hankerchiefs on hand and a fluffy hot water bottle to curl up with.

When a friend is ill, take some time to go and visit them! People do this so rarely these days which I think is rather sad. Nothing cheers one up like a considerate friend. If you are concerned about catching the bug yourself, visit them after the second or third day when they are less contagious and obviously try and avoid getting too close. Bring them a handmade card, a basket of fruit or some flowers, tell them they look beautiful because they’re probably not feeling it right now, and share some amusing stories from your own life to encourage them to get better. You’ll probably both be smiling when you leave.

Stay positive! Your mind has an powerful connection to your body, so thinking positive and joyful thoughts will help you recover. If all you do is feel sorry for yourself and let being sick make you miserable as well, you’re not giving yourself much encouragement to get better. Just think of it as a bit of down time, relax and dream about all the things your’re going to do when you get better!

I hope these tips are of some help to Princesses heading in to the flu season as we are here, or if you’re unlucky enough to get a summer cold they may help as well! Thank you to everyone who has sent me lovely ‘get well soon’ messages!

As Princesses, I’m sure we all have dreams and wishes that we’d like to see realised in the future. Whether its having a beautiful palace and gardens, travelling all over the world, learning a new skill or something as simple as aquiring a beautiful dress. I firmly believe that there is nothing we can not achieve if we truly set our hearts on it, however that doesn’t mean we should expect a fairy godmother to come along and grant all these wishes with the wave of her wand. More often we have to use our wits, talents and imagination to bring our dream world in to reality. This method takes more work, but its also far more rewarding!

Sometimes big dreams can seem so far away and too hard to achieve because we’re simply not sure how to get there. We often put off working towards these goals because there is so much effort needed and its hard to see where to begin. This is where knowing how to set realistic and achievable goals is useful. Almost any long term target can be broken down in to a series of smaller steps that can be tackled, piece by piece, to bring about the end result.

To begin with, try Visualising your goals. Create a clear mental image of what you want to achieve. If your goal is to visit England, picture yourself walking through the streets of London. If your goal is to master a musical intrument, picture yourself on stage playing for a large audience of happy people. Having an strong image of your dream will keep you going, whenever you lose focus just bring that image to mind. You could also create a scrapbook or collage as a physical reminder!

The next important step is to write them down. Even if you have an excellent memory, writing down your goals or typing them up will bring them out of your head and in to the physical world. It will also help you plan out your smaller steps and to be more decisive about what you intend to achieve. Its important to be very clear, avoid ambiguity in your wording and to make your goals measurable. Don’t say ‘I’d like to write a book one day’ say ‘I’d like to have a published novel in this genre before I am 25.’ Setting a time constraint is also important because it makes your goal more definite and gives you a sense of urgency.

Break down the big ones. All goals have smaller steps that lead up to achieving them. Now that you have a written list of your goals, you can look at them one at a time and start thinking about the little steps you need to take to achieve them. For example, if you want to learn a new language you will need to look for a course to enroll in or tutor to hire, then actually attend the lessons and revise what you’ve learnt on a regular basis. Larger goals such as travelling overseas, owning a house or starting a career or business will take a great deal more steps, but the important thing is to start somewhere. Think of each of your steps as mini-goals, which ones can you start on today? I bet there will be something you can do right away.

Discipline yourself. This can be the hardest step, but all your work of visualising goals and creating plans goes to waste if you put them in a drawer and forget about them. You need to stay focused and review your goals and plans regularly. Perhaps you could write them on a sheet of paper and read them every morning after you get up, or make a desktop wallpaper out of them. Start writing yourself to-do lists and make sure you do something, however small, towards your goals each day. Don’t forget to reward yourself whenever you complete one of your mini-goals!

Ask for help! We all need help sometimes, and although others can’t achieve our goals for us they can give us advice, suggestions and support that makes all the difference. Talk to friends and family and meet people who have experience in the area you’ve set your goal. If something seems impossible, it may just mean you need a fresh perspective and a little bit of assistance, so don’t be afraid to ask for it.

Accept your failures and learn from them. All of us make mistakes, sometimes our initial plans turn out to have holes in them and we have to find a new way to achieve our goals. Don’t see failure as an excuse to give up, see it as a lesson to learn from and a spur to push you onwards. The old saying that when you fall off a horse you need to get right back on again is true for a great many things in life.

Be true to yourself. Never sacrifice your personal integrity or beliefs to take a faster or easier path to success. Nothing is as important as staying true to your heart, and no great success will be fulfilling at the sacrifice of your morals. There’s always more than one way to achieve something, find the way that works for you and makes you feel good about yourself aswell!

I’ve recently decided to take part in the 101 Things in 1001 days challenge, its very exciting to me because I have a lot of little goals I want to keep track of, as well as some bigger ones. You may like to take this challenge yourself!

Starting from the 1st of April there will also be a new section of Princess Portal, for a monthly ‘Princess Challenge.’ I’m going to set myself a new task each month and I hope you will join me in working on the same task, or one of your own! I think its going to be a lot of fun and I will post more details on April 1st.

Inspired by Enchanted I decided to put together a little list for ‘How to be a Disney Princess.’ This is mostly in jest, for a bit of fun, but for girls who grew up with the Disney Heroines as a major inspiration for the Inner Princesses, this may bring back a touch of nostalgia!

Sing sweet nightingale, sing! Disney Princesses will take any excuse to burst in to song, all of which seem to be strangely appropriate to the situation at hand. Sing as you do your chores, stroll through the garden or sit by your window daydreaming. If you’re like me and very shy about your voice, just sing when there’s noone there to listen. Make up little songs and melodies like you did when you were a child, if you don’t want to sing, hum or whistle!

Dance whenever you feel the urge, express your happiness by flitting about as if your every movement is a ballet move. Disney Princesses have pretty little mannerisms, giggle behind your hands, clasp them to your heart, spin around and let your skirts swirl out. Rest your chin on one hand as you gaze at the clouds. Dance on the beach, in the park, in your room when nobody’s watching. You don’t need music, just listen to the melody in your heart.

Make friends with animals. Talk to the birds in your garden, your pets or stray cats and local wildlife. If you’re a bug loving Princess don’t forget to say hello to the snails and the butterflies too! Just because they don’t talk back doesn’t mean they can’t hear you. Plants and trees can make good friends too, I have a Sweet Basil plant who lives in our kitchen and they say plants grow better if you talk to them!

Clean the house. Scrubbing floors and sweeping seems to be a bit of a theme in Disney movies, so make sure your home is always spotless! Tie your hair up in a scarf and don’t forget to sing! You could also offer to clean house for a friend or relative. I don’t suggest trying to get your animal friends to help though, they’re likely to do more harm than good!

Go out to the markets ‘In disguise.’ You won’t be able to mingle with the masses unless you hide your true identity so leave the ball gown at home and wear a simple dress. Chat to the local shopkeepers and buy some fruit. Take some time to experience the world outside the palace doors.

Daydream about your Prince. Does he have clear blue eyes? Is he tall and handsome? Practise your waltz for the day he asks you to dance. Maybe you should spare a thought for his real features to, is he brave and courteous? Kind and compassionate? How will you know when you find him?

Be resourceful. You may not be living in a beautiful palace (yet) but you can use your imagination and create beauty all around you. Learn to make your own dresses, decorate your room with wildflowers, make a daisy chain for a crown and remember its the thought that counts, not the price!

Buy or sew yourself some ‘Princess Gowns,’ typically you should have one plain dress and one fancy one. Disney Princess dresses are almost always ankle length with nicely fitted bodices and flared skirts. Plain dresses in brown, cream, black or blue will serve for cleaning, shopping and walking through the forest (don’t forget an apron!) Your fancy dress should be in your favourite colour, elegant and decadent enough to wear to royal occaisions!

Kindness counts. Disney Princesses are always kind, considerate and charitable. They never hate and rarely express anger, but conduct themselves with grace and gentleness. Read books to a group of children, help elderly women with their shopping and always volunteer to be of service when you see someone in need. Be generous to strangers and considerate to your friends. Always say please and thank you!

Make wishes! Thats how dreams come true after all, you have to wish very hard and believe with all your heart. Wish on wishing wells and shooting stars, blow dandelion heads and candles and catch falling leaves before they hit the ground. Make your wish very clear, and cross your fingers that it will be granted!

There must be a Ball! All good fairy tales have a ball, so keep an eye out for events in your city and plan to get tickets. Take your Prince Charming or go alone in the hope of meeting one. Wear your prettiest dress, your glass slippers and flowers in your hair or a sparkling tiara. Then dance, dance the night away, but make sure to leave before the clock strikes twelve!

This morning I had french lessons as usual so I headed in to the City to meet my tutor at our favourite cafe. Afterwards I decided to do a little shopping. Girls often tell me that they don’t enjoy shopping that much, even though they feel they should, and I must admit somedays it seems like more of a chore than a pleasure for me aswell. There are a few secrets I find help make shopping a more enjoyable experience;

Dress up! Shopping is much more fun if you feel fresh and pretty to begin with, and you’ll be so much more at ease walking in to nice boutiques. Looking your best makes you feel more confident aswell. Do wear clothes that are easy to change out of if you’re clothes shopping though and don’t forget comfortable shoes!

I personally can’t stand shopping centers or ‘malls’ as they are called in some countries. I prefer shopping on streets where I do most of my walking outside, especially when the weather’s nice. Being stuck in a giant complex with strong airconditioning and no windows for hours on end is just so draining. Open air markets are fantastic aswell!

Leave the shopping list at home, or bring it, but pay minimal attention. Shopping for fun means allowing your attention to wander and exploring new store and areas you’ve never been to. It can be nice to buy some things you need, but it doesn’t hurt to also pick up a few things you fall in love with at first sight.

Make sure you keep hydrated, shopping is hard work! Also stopping for a snack or lunch can make the outing more relaxing. Don’t rush around everywhere, give yourself time to stop and listen to a busker or check out the nearby art gallery or museum. Break your day up with some other activities and it will seem less tedious.

Here is my little haul from today, ViVi and Popteen magazines, Sugarbunnies pen, Crochet strawberry phone charm, some makeup and an adorable pink Scotty Dog bag!

In my last article on skin care I mentioned that every Princess has different skin and that not all remedies and products work for everyone. To decide on a routine that works best for you, it can be helpful to find out which skin type you have. There are four main skin types, and a commonly listed fifth is ‘normal’ skin, which is well balanced skin with no particular problems. There might be a lucky few with this skin type, but most of us will find we lean towards one of these.

Oily Skin
If you wake up in the morning and your skin has an oily film over it (easily removed with a tissue) you are prone to acne or blemishes and find your face can look a bit shiny throughout the day you probably have oily skin. Its important to cleanse regularly and you might also need to exfoliate to keep your pores clean and prevent blackheads and blemishes. The benefit of oily skin is that it is less prone to wrinkles and will look younger for longer.

Dry Skin
The opposite to Oily skin, Dry skin can appear a little dull and is dry to the touch. It can sometimes be sensitive and prone to itching or rashes. Its important to keep dry skin hydrated throughout the day and to protect it from the sun or strong winds. Using a nice nutrient rich moisturiser will help keep your skin firm and soft. The good thing about dry skin is you’re probably less prone to blemishes.

Combination Skin
This is a mixture of Oily and Dry skin. Usually it includes an oily ‘T zone’ which is your forehead, nose and chin and dryer cheeks. This can vary though. Combination skin has to be treated separately, make sure to cleanse and exfoliate your T zone and be sure to moisturize and protect your cheeks.

Sensitive Skin
This is usually dry skin that is extra sensitive to the environment and chemicals in products. If you find you get a reaction from makeup, shampoos and skin care products or that your skin flares up easily in reaction to weather conditions you may have sensitive skin. I strongly reccommend using all natural products and staying away from anything too acidic on your face. If you have sensitive skin its always good to test new products on the back of your hand first.

Once you have identified your skin type, you can begin to establish a routine for maintaining your complexion. This includes all of the products or remedies you use and also lifestyle factors, which can have a big impact on your skins health and appearance.

Food for the Skin
Your diet is a major factor in your skins appearance, the Skin is your largest organ and it is also used to excrete toxins. Avoid foods high in saturated fats, such as fried foods and some baked goods, this is especially important if you have oily skin as you don’t want to increase your natural oil levels. Unsaturated oils however are beneficial to your skin, these include fish oil and olive oil (when uncooked.) Eating plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables provides you with the nutrients required to repair and maintain healthy skin. You may also like to read my article on healthy living.

Internal Cleansing
Drinking plenty of water is one of the best remedies there is! However the minimum of ‘8-10 glasses’ often toted is actually a myth. Most people do not need to drink this much water. The water needed to remain hydrated varies greatly from person to person and also depends on how much liquid you are losing through perspiration etc. A more accurate estimate is that a normal adult loses about 10 cups of water a day, and consumes at least 4 cups in food so they only need 6 cups of water to stay healthy and hydrated. Adding a little lemon juice to your water is a great way to help detoxify your body as well.

Sleep and Rest
I can not emphasize enough how important it is to get your beauty sleep! It is while you are sleeping that your body is at its best repairing your skin so if you wish to have a nice complexion and heal quickly its early to bed and early to rise. Most people benefit from at least 8 hours sleep, but I find if I get 10 hours sleep a night my skin is significantly better. Stress is also a factor in poor skin so make sure you have your relaxation time each day.

Cleanse, Tone, Moisturise
These are the three steps most common in a skin care routine. With oily and combination skin you should probably do this twice a day, morning and night. For dry or sensitive skin you may be better only doing it once a day but moisturising more often. Find a balance that works for you. Cleansing removes dirt, makeup and oil from the skin and should be done with warm water and a gentle cleanser. Toning protects the skin and tightens pores, helping to keep it firm and youthful. Moisturising is the last step, it rehydrates the skin and a good moisturiser will also include nutrients and oils that help maintain the skins elasticity and balance.

I’ll be looking more at these three steps and sharing some of my favourite products in the next lesson, as well as offering some natural remedies for each.

I know we all have bad days, I’m sure every Princess out there has had a day where she’s thought ‘This is the worst day of my life.’ Sometimes it really is, but often its just the accumulation of lifes little stresses, concerns and misunderstandings that wear away at us until we find it hard to smile. Some days everything just seems to go wrong from the moment we wake up.

I think having a positive outlook on life definitely helps minimise these, but there are also little things we can do to rise above bad days and create some joy. Following your dreams and doing what makes you happy in the long run is important, but its also necessary to enjoy each day as much as we can and some times that means taking control of your time and creating your own little bit of happiness. I hope these suggestions will help in doing so.

Stop and breathe. When we are stressed we tend to let it affect us mentally and physically, which leads in to a vicious cycle, making us feel more overworked. Take a moment to pause, take some deep breaths and let go. Look around you, notice the beautiful things, birds calling, children laughing, a flower growing out of the pavement. Remove yourself from the situation for a moment and just clear your mind.

Smile. Yes its corny, but it works. Some days I like to collect smiles, while I am out and about I smile at strangers and everytime I get a smile back I count! 1 from the bus driver, 1 from the little old lady at the shop, 1 from the security gaurd and so on. Each smile is like a little bit of sunshine and it doesn’t take many to make me feel a whole lot better!

Treat yourself. It doesn’t hurt to give yourself a little treat now and then. Whether its an ice cream in your favourite flavour, a new hair clip or the simple luxury of time to do something like watching a favourite movie or having a nice bubble bath. Sometimes these little pick me ups can be the one nice thing in an unpleasant day, and that makes them valuable. The trick is not to do this everytime something little goes wrong, but reserve it for when you really need it otherwise it loses the novelty.

Spend some time outside, weather permitting of course (although I like walking in the rain aswell.) Being in natural surroundings is both relaxing and grounding. Take a walk, sit in a park and read a book or just relax. My favourite way to unwind is to go to the beach, there’s something about the breaking waves that washes away my cares. If you find this effective you might be interested in the theory of Biophilia.

Go and make someone elses day. Honestly, you’re probably not the only one having a bad day. Have a look around you, at your friends or colleagues or school mates and think of something nice you can do for them. Maybe help them with a task they’re finding difficult, offer to buy them lunch or a coffee or just give them an honest compliment. You’d be amazed how much of a difference a little thoughtfulness on your part can do to bring happiness to others, and like laughter, its contagious.

I wish all of you a beautiful day and hope these ideas might make your grey days a little sunnier

I’ve recieved a few questions about skin care and beauty so I thought it might be nice to do a few lessons on the basics of maintaining one’s complexion. Today’s lesson is about natural beauty treatments.

For centuries Princesses have been trying different substances and methods to give their skin softness, clearness and that inner glow. Some, such as Cleopatra’s goats milk baths, are gentle remedies and others, for example the consumption of arsenic in the courts of Europe, were quite deadly! As modern Princesses we have a wide range of beauty products available to us, and it can be quite confusing as to which to choose and how to apply them.

One of the most important things to remember is that everyone’s skin is different, and there is no miracle cream, treatment or method that will work the same for everyone. What works wonders for one person may have no benefit to another. The best way to reach a beneficial beauty routine is to try different products and remedies until you find the ones that gives the best results for you. Keep in mind that you are unlikely to notice the difference overnight, as a general rule I will try something for three weeks before deciding whether or not it has worked as this gives your skin’s chemistry enough time to adapt.

Personally I am a strong advocate of using the most natural products I can. A lot of beauty products you buy on the shelf these days, especially the cheaper ones, can contain harsh chemicals that will effectively clean your skin but will also age it faster. Chemicals like Sodium Laureth Sulfate, which originally were intended for use as industrial cleaning agents are not something you want to put on your face! Just remember, your skin absorbs any oil based substance you apply to it.

In fact, the very best beauty products and remedies can be found in your kitchen! For cleansers, oatmeal and milk work wonders. Honey is a natural healing balm which can be applied to sores and scabs. Garlic has great antibacterial properties and when rubbed on non-ruptured blemishes can help ease the swelling. Cucumber is cooling and soothing to inflamed or burned skin and tea has long been a popular remedy for reducing swelling due to water retention, such as bags under the eyes. Egg whites can be mixed in to a hair rinse to give you shiny locks and natural unflavoured yoghurt makes a great facial mask. I have tried all of these remedies at some point and found them far more effective than anything purchased from the shops. There is a reason some women pay hundreds of dollars to go to day spas where they use ingredients just like these!

Here is a very simple recipe that I use now and then when I feel my skin needs a bit of extra attention. I have shared this with a few friends and they’ve also agreed their skin feels much softer and clearer afterwards. This Mask combines oatmeal, which is a great cleanser and natural exfoliant, honey which heals and hydrates the skin, egg white as an emollient to soften and tone as well as cucumber which is cooling and soothing to dry or damaged skin.

Honey and Oat Healing Mask

2 tbsp oatmeal or rolled oats
1 tsp honey
1 egg white, seperated
4 slices of cucumber, skins removed

Chop or finely grind the oats until they are as close to a powder as you can make them, if there are a few larger flakes it will not matter. Likewise dice the cucumber slices into small pieces, the closer to a paste or jelly consistency the better. In a bowl beat the egg white until a light foam forms on top, mix in the honey and then add the oats and cucumber. It should be fairly thick, but still runny enough to spread over skin easily, if necessary add more oats.

If you have sensitive skin, please try a bit of this on the back of your wrist first. Leave it there for ten minutes and then wash off, if you notice any redness or itchiness do not proceed with the mask. All of the ingredients in this mask are very safe and should not cause any irritation, but if you have sensitive skin it never hurts to test first.

Apply the mask to clean, slightly damp skin. Spread it across your face in upwards strokes, do not apply it around your eyes. When you face is covered, go and do something relaxing for about ten minutes. The mask should start to dry but not dry completely, if your skin starts to feel tight its time to wash it off. Use luke warm water to rinse off the mask, then tone and moisturise. Its ok to use this mask about once a week or whenever you’re preparing for a big event or recovering from a bad week. If you try it out please tell me about your results!

Part 2 will cover different skin types and the three stages of Cleansing, Toning and moisturising.

I decided recently that I wanted to write an article about defining your own Princess Style. Fashion is a great form of self expression, and lets face it, nothing makes us feel more like a Princess than wearing beautiful clothes. However there are so many interesting styles that I love, I realised I’d never be able to fit them all in to one entry.

So, over the next few weeks I’m going to talk about a few different fashions that have a ‘Princess Aesthetic.’ They are all unique, but share some common features; they are girly, feminine, cute, elegant , romantic and a little bit decadent. I don’t claim to be an expert on any of these styles. I don’t like to restrict myself to any one fashion either so I encourage you to experiment, and yes, *gasp*, mix them up a little to find a style that suits you and compliments your tastes and lifestyles.

Casual Princess style is really just a term I use for what I like to wear when I’m not in lolita. Its cute, light and girly and although its casual, it tends to still be refined and polished.

Colours: Pink, white, light blue, cream, black, jewel tones (rich red, green, blue), silver, gold.
Materials: Floral prints, bows, ruffles, lace, knit, silk flowers, cherubs, ribbon, satin, chiffon, brocade, velvet, silk, embroidery, cotton, pearls, diamantes, faux fur
Motifs: Crowns, heraldry, roses, fleur de lys, hearts, bows, french scrolls, monograms,

Casual Princess is taking inspiration from beautiful, royal gowns and toning it down a bit, making it comfortable for daily wear. Skirts and dresses are a must, knee length still looks elegant and modest but is easy to move around in. Tops might be light, with wide loose sleeves or little cap sleeves. Chiffon and crepe satin are good choices, both being very romantic and a little more dressy. In colder months, velvet and brocade are equally luxurious with a trim of faux fur. Stockings can be flattering to your legs and make them appear longer. Pretty heels give an elegance and poise but cute flats can work well too. Hair can be worn up or down, with flowers and jewel clips. Pearls are a must, but sparkly crystals and charms can add a nice touch.

This collage features a pretty floral dress by GUESS, a cute Juicy Couture wristlet clutch and accessories by Michal Negrin and Monsoon. You can find all the links here as well as view my other sets on Polyvore and make your own. What do you like to wear on your casual princess days?

I think it takes a lot of confidence to be a Princess, even more so if you dress in lolita or another minority fashion. Unfortunately I know a lot of girls struggle with this, and I did for a long time myself. It was only when I finished school and started to discover who I was, and think about who I wanted to be that I learnt to have faith in myself, in going after what I wanted I learnt a few lessons about confidence, and found the more I believed in myself the more I could achieve!

Self confidence is not something you can aquire overnight, it takes more than a new hair cut to change the way we feel about ourselves. I think the idea that some people are just shy and others are talkative and outgoing is a myth. I believe that we choose how introverted or extroverted we wish to be, although one may come more naturally and the other take more effort. Being confident doesn’t have to mean you’re loud though, I have met people who speak very little but when they do everyone listens, and I think they’re probably more secure than some who feel the need to talk all the time. There is a definite balance when it comes to confidence, its important to have a high sense of self worth, but also to maintain humilty.

Learn to accept compliments. You probably don’t realise how many people out there think you’re a great person and want you to be more confident. Genuine compliments are like gifts, they should be appreciated and not refused. It always upsets me when I go out of my way to compliment someone, whether it be on their style, talent or kind nature only to be refuted with “Oh, I’m not good really. I’m stupid/ugly/boring..” This is a false modesty, denying compliments says to the other person that you don’t appreciate their kind words. If you deny a compliment when you obviously believe it’s true it can also come off as conceited. There is nothing wrong with accepting compliments graciously, a simple “Thank you so much for noticing!” will make you both feel good and show that you really appreciate their interest. It doesn’t hurt to return compliments either, much like gift giving, it goes both ways. Learn to accept criticism gracefully too, this is much harder, but try not to let it affect you personally. Thank the person for their help (even if its phrased in an unhelpful way) and respond to it logically, not emotionally.

Admit to your mistakes and learn from them. People with low self confidence usually react to mistakes they make in one of two ways, they cover it up as fast as possible, hoping noone will notice - or - they use it as an excuse to criticise and put themselves down, to reaffirm their belief that they can’t achieve anything. Accepting your mistakes can be tough, but its the only way to make them in to a positive experience. Everything that goes wrong in our lives can teach us a lesson, look for the lesson and find a way to avoid making the same mistake again. When you realise where you went wrong, you will find the confidence to try again!

Take chances! Confident Princesses go after their dreams, even when doing so means leaving the safety of their comfort zones. Throughout our lives, opportunities are presented to us that can bring big changes, and changes are scary, but sometimes its better to take that leap and chase after happiness than to stay on our current paths and miss out. One of my favourite lines from Shimotsuma Monogatari is this “Humans are cowards in the face of happiness. It takes courage to hold on to happiness.”

Do what you believe is right. Too often we let other’s thoughts and opinions decide how we behave. This is the hardest, but most important lesson to learn - stop letting your concern for what others think of you control you. Notice that I didn’t say ‘don’t care what others think’ ? I don’t think its really possible to completely stop caring about other’s opinions, for example the opinions of our friends and family are very important to us, sometimes we do need to listen to their advice. In the end though we make our own choices in life, and making the choices that feel right to you is far more important than pleasing others or fitting a social norm. Whether its the colour you want to dye your hair or your career choice, have the confidence to follow your heart. Some of the greatest minds in history were once thought to be mad, but they believed in themselves and their ideas even when noone else did.

When I first decided to wear lolita out, it was only a small trip, a walk to the library and shops about thirty minutes away. None the less, I was scared! I was afraid of what others would think or say. I went to the door to leave three times before I actually got out of it! I’m really glad I did though, because now I enjoy wearing lolita out and about and feel far more confident in my style. Sometimes being confident is just a matter of finding courage, you still feel the fear but then you say to yourself “Right, I’m just going to do this!” and its usually not as bad as you expected ^_~